So you two just broke up...

and he wants you back. What now?

Time apart is healthy for any relationship. It gives you the chance to appreciate each other. Sometimes, time apart makes a person realize that they REALLY want to be with the person they broke up with. What do you do if your dumper wants you back?

Don't let pride get in the way of you getting back together with him. Of course you got hurt big time. In fact, you're probably still hurting. Truth be told, that's part of loving someone. Things do not always come up roses and chocolates. Pride has its place under the sun, but in relationships, it can be tricky. Relationships are never easy, but only you can determine what your relationship with the other person was worth. Only you can tell if it's still worth anything to you now.

However, if you truly do not want anything to do with him, if the mere thought of him makes you want to vomit, or if you'd rather jump out the window or even a bridge than be with him, then by all means, stay away. You two broke up anyway, so disappearing from his life shouldn't be a problem. If you simply need time to sort things out, then tell him that too. Let him know that when you're ready to talk, you'll let him know.

You need time to think things through. If, after all that thinking things through, you still don't want him back truly and honestly, then that, my dear, is the final answer.